Yuossima Dineen On How To Learn To Finally Love Yourself

Embrace your Individualism ~ being my own true self. I will not say this does not come without its challenges for there are a continuation of factors that will continue to challenge you as to how faithful you are willing to be to yourself? Using my voice, speaking up and standing my ground is something I am required to implement in order to live a true and honest existence. It means being faithful to myself and not cowering when something is not true or out of alignment. While also honoring that I am diverse and that not all truths are going to co-exist with my own so allowing space for that.

As a part of our series about “How To Learn To Finally Love Yourself” we had the pleasure to interview Yuossima Dineen

Ex-model turned Divine Channel, Yuossima Dineen, is a 31-year-old Author, Spiritual Life Coach and Quantum Reiki Master from Northern Ireland, a determined, resilient and impassioned entrepreneur who is now offering alternative wellness, after her life nearly took a very different turn. With a childhood steeped in trauma, escapism and addictions and adulthood seeing her navigate divorce, a cancer scare and being sent to a psychiatric ward, you could be forgiven for thinking this ex-model who failed to pursue her modelling career further due to severe bullying and a suicide attempt, would have a downtrodden take of life. But, you couldn’t be more wrong — she is a beacon of light, shining it for others, launching her own holistic company so that more people can free themselves of past trauma and generational chains so they can love themselves and truly live a life they thrive in.

Thank you so much for joining us! I’d love to begin by asking you to give us the backstory as to what brought you to this specific career path.

It was never intentional.

My own pain/trauma and turmoil ultimately paved the way for a path I didn’t know was being paved. While I was healing myself and breaking free of generational chains that attached me to the limits of my ancestors and the woundedness of what had been passed down, I was also building this company.

Everytime I delved deeper into myself and my own healing, I channeled and birthed a new resource to contribute to YuossimaroseLTD formerly known as The Trauma Sanctuary.

It was my pillar.

And now, I hope to be a beacon of light for others; so that more people can be free of past trauma and generational chains so they can love themselves enough to live a life they truly desire.

Having personally embraced an alternative and holistic lifestyle after being faced with a chronic health condition called Fibromyalgia and the breakdown of relations/grief and mental health challenges, I am now creating a life of fulfillment and purpose based on my own inner alignment.

Following my own dharmic path.

However, it was on this journey of self-discovery that I really grappled with my own uniqueness, until I ultimately discovered that I thrive on being different. Through embracing my own individuality with unapologetic pride, I have not only founded my company but I have ignited a universal movement.

In a society where we feel so tied to the life we have been told to settle for, I desire to inspire others to know that more is available. I desire my legacy to be a collective movement in which as a society we rise above our societal constraints so as individuals we can Ignite our own Inner Flame- to break free from the ultimate suppression of our Individualism.

Empowering women to stop looking outside of themselves and to face their inner truth.

I devote myself to encourage those in my life to always delve deeper; for this is not just a calling, this is who I was born to be.

And, I stand as a living testament to the transformative power of perseverance and resilience.

Through sharing my own journey, I walk the talk, as I inspire others to reclaim their destiny. This business isn’t just a venture; it’s a beacon of hope and a sanctuary for those navigating the labyrinth of healing; as a true testament to the transformative power of embracing one’s uniqueness.

Yuossimarose Ltd is my way of channeling all of my life’s experiences/wisdom and healing into something bigger. In knowing this will be of greater service by helping others transform their pain into power.

Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you hope that they might help people along their path to self-understanding or a better sense of wellbeing in their relationships?

I am forging a movement that ripples through the collective good of all. The beating heart of my vision is to create spaces that are sacred but transformative, where the echoes of pain can be released without the heavy chains of generation trauma, shame or blame.

Through my business venture, I offer 1:1 space holding at a limited capacity here in Northern Ireland, online merchandise, books ~ including Volume 1 & 2, this includes The Truth of Trauma and Relationship Remedy, Group coaching, in person Retreats & Workshops as well as in person live seminars which will be happening in the year of 2025.

In which I am going to be training as a somatic breathwork leader in order to facilitate this.

All of our programmes are currently online so people can access my work from across the globe while also having the option to meet up — encouraging women to delve deeper into the truth of who they are so they can live an authentic existence while also having a positive rippling effect in all areas of their reality.

One of our Online Training Programmes is called “SXUALS,” this aims to educate women about harmful products/period health and sex toys to dismantle mainstream misconceptions that are contributing to women’s reproductive and infertility issues as well as providing conscious teachings for safe and intimate pleasure by co-creating a healthy and sustainable sex life by first exploring intimacy with themselves.

Our other online movement is called #R2YSS ~ this container is for women who are willing to contribute to creating a better world for the Next Generation. This online container helps them to build a legacy they love without sacrificing or suffering, while contributing to the greater good of all, in knowing that they are destined for greater things, this includes dharma mentorship.

“It is a powerful container for women willing to become the most potent expression of who they are capable of becoming.”

Not needing to conform to the masculine ways of leadership and instead leading in a way that honors their true feminine nature; preventing burnout as they are able to sustain their own well-being while also being of true service as they fulfill their soul’s purpose.

AAK is our Relationship container; This is for single women who are willing to heal their inner masculine to attract in a healthy relationship so they are no longer seeking and depending externally.

It includes beloved coaching which provides them with ongoing support in having healthy relations, to break the cycle of toxic and dysfunctional interrelating and myth busting the Prince Charming Concept.

Creating a catalyst effect in which instead of women seeking a savior, a space is created in which men can be the provider/nurturer as the feminine heals.

No longer creating a discord between men and women because we are choosing to be the change interdependently.

Some of our projects for the future include launching a vegan makeup line as well as a candle line called #Bethelight in aid of suicide awareness, as well as our annual vision of helping women and children overcome generational abuse by donating %’s of our yearly earnings while also providing in-person spaces globally.

Do you have a personal story that you can share with our readers about your struggles or successes along your journey of self-understanding and self-love? Was there ever a tipping point that triggered a change regarding your feelings of self-acceptance?

My personal journey has been marked by numerous struggles and successes that have shaped my path toward self-understanding and self-love.

Growing up, I faced significant trauma, including sexual abuse from a young age, which remained buried in my subconscious mind until my late twenties. These experiences left me feeling worthless as well as experiencing a constant sense of not belonging, despite my efforts to fit in.

I sought refuge in destructive behaviors, attempting to numb the pain with alcohol and other external ways to seek the validation I desired including sleeping around; however beneath the surface, I was struggling deeply with these feelings of deep worthlessness which were instilled by my upbringing.

My physical and mental health soon deteriorated, after reaching breaking point with a chronic health condition and a diagnosis of Fibromyalgia. It was during this time of desperation when I was drawn to alternative healing such as; Reiki, which then became my turning point.

Through Reiki and other holistic practices, I reconnected with my inner strength, realizing that true healing and acceptance came from within. That is when I began my journey of self-discovery, self-love/understanding and inner empowerment.

However, after all of the healing and growth that I had successfully accomplished, I was soon initiated by the universe again in which I came home to find my husband had packed his bags after deciding to leave. This abandonment triggered a cascade of unlovability, and PTSD and I soon found myself in a psychiatric ward battling with internal trauma. I battled with court proceedings for three years after that, as I had discovered that my ex husband had gone on to have a child with another woman.

This forced me to put a pause on codependent relationships once and for all as I realized that I needed to become what I needed for myself, no longer using relations to mask the wounds I was trying to suppress. I learnt that I needed to delve deeper into surface level practices and to truly start confronting my own inner hell.

According to a recent study cited in Cosmopolitan, in the US, only about 28 percent of men and 26 percent of women are “very satisfied with their appearance.” Could you talk about what some of the causes might be, as well as the consequences?

I hold deep compassion in regards to this topic and how as a whole we are affected by the pressure in today’s society. Unfortunately, we live in a mainstream culture that conditions us that we have to look a certain way; which has detrimental effects on our overall self esteem. I am very fortunate that I have risen above these adversities, as I see the billionaire dollar industry that profits from feeding our insecurities, however, what I truly empathize and express overall concern with, is the impact that it has on the younger generation.

This concerns me.

The consequences are far bigger than we comprehend; including the increase in young girls risking their own lives by proceeding with dangerous surgeries to mold into these societal constraints of how they should look.

As soon as I place myself in a situation in which there is this mainstream phenomenon; I immediately doubt my own appearance and that is why I know it is not my own truth. It is a result of mainstream culture. There has to be some form of not only awareness but also accountability for how we are contributing to these detrimental and societal conforms in which we are contributing to feeding these insecurities. We are either creating change or installing acceptance; acceptance of a worldwide phenomenon that is extremely toxic.

To some, the concept of learning to truly understand and “love yourself,” may seem like a cheesy or trite concept. But it is not. Can you share with our readers a few reasons why learning to love yourself it’s truly so important?

Love is the essence of who we are.

To know ourselves in this way is to know the truth of ourselves.

It is not cheesy or a trite concept as many of us need to embark on this journey in order to know the truth of our existence.

Talking about it then creates a catalyst of change. As we all embrace our own individual journey of remembrance, it creates a catalyst in which others give themselves full permission to fully embark on their own journey of coming home to who they are, which is love.

It is the sovereign way.

Why do you think people stay in mediocre relationships? What advice would you give to our readers regarding this?

We find it difficult to let go of things that no longer serve us because we attach parts of ourselves into those experiences — whether it’s a relationship/career/habits or patterns, we hide parts of ourselves in them and attach to them as a part of our identify which we then refuse to let go of as we are afraid of who we will be once we let those things go.

So we meet resistance as we don’t want to let go of who we are, which creates internal suffering as we resist releasing a version of us that no longer serves us.

As it requires us to step into the unknown and this is uncomfortable for the human psyche.

We choose what feels comfortable even if this is the denominating factor for causing us suffering.

To detach from the experience, you must come into your body. It will discern what is no longer serving us as our emotional center is what guides us in our life to help us identify what is and isn’t in alignment — by disconnecting from the head and coming into the safety of ourselves, we can then trust in our internal knowing.

“By releasing him, I am releasing myself,” — Quoted in The Truth of Trauma.

When we continue to refuse to let go of things that no longer serve us, we are then choosing to live a mediocre and/or misaligned life, acknowledging we do have a choice.

If you are holding onto things in your life that no longer serve you — you are choosing to be out of alignment with yourself. To let go of those things means you are taking radical self responsibility and choosing to live authentically.

In remembering that alignment is the pillar of your well-being, it is not just spiritual.

Therefore well-being is a decision.

When I talk about self-love and understanding I don’t necessarily mean blindly loving and accepting ourselves the way we are. Many times self-understanding requires us to reflect and ask ourselves the tough questions, to realize perhaps where we need to make changes in ourselves to be better not only for ourselves but our relationships. What are some of those tough questions that will cut through the safe space of comfort we like to maintain, that our readers might want to ask themselves? Can you share an example of a time that you had to reflect and realize how you needed to make changes?

This is a challenging one for most people, as many of us like to stay comfortable. What’s needed here is to actually take time to think and reflect and then deal with our emotions first — allow your emotions to be felt internally — this requires self-awareness to know your own self well enough to allow yourself to feel these emotions within your body. You need to be able to recognise what’s going on, before you can deal with it or let go of it.

Within my book ‘The Truth of Trauma’, I use this affirmation: “I in this divine moment am no longer willing to neglect or abandon oneself. I choose to be the cycle breaker in my lineage.” By affirming this and initiating within oneself that you will no longer choose self last, you are taking FULL responsibility for your life.

So many people powerlessly give their life away and disempower themselves by blaming society/structures or systems for how their life is when ultimately our life is our own. By using this affirmation ~ you are activating soul responsibility.

It is important to acknowledge using somatic training ~ how does the body respond when you say these words out loud. Do you as the reader notice any resistance?

If you feel any anger/projection or blame — pay close attention to what is coming up for you. How do you feel? Really delve into the depths of your own being. This is when we can really start activating our true self and accepting it.

For we are not being deceptive. Instead, we are acknowledging these internal reactions and honoring our self-responsibility. You can delve deeper into this self-enquiry by asking inwardly, where am I not choosing myself? Where or how am I settling? What fear-based thoughts am I believing in as true? What illusions have I attached myself to and old stories that are preventing me from my liberty?

In knowing our stories are not our own.

Instead of choosing the life you truly want, where are you neglecting yourself or blaming others?

I acknowledge that this can be extremely uncomfortable, but this internal inquiry is necessary to start your journey of coming back to who your authentic self.

So many don’t really know how to be alone, or are afraid of it. How important is it for us to have, and practice, that capacity to truly be with ourselves and be alone (literally or metaphorically)?

This requires so much deep compassion and awareness and why a need for facilitators is truly necessary in order to actually be held in a safe space.

A lot of us can’t be with ourselves because of trapped generational trauma as we are afraid to confront what is being stored in our nervous system. It requires a lot of empathy, patience and the right tools to be able to facilitate safely releasing these stored emotions.

When you slowly start to unpack not just certain things about our lives and self that we hide from, as a form of protection, we can then start facing what needs to be held in love and divine presence so we can be fully present with ourselves. Often we do not have the right support; resources or environment to allow for this facilitation to take place therefore the most sacred offering and act of love towards ourselves is to be with ourselves in a way that we can provide true facilitatorship not just for the satisfaction of being able to be on our own but in order to truly thrive in our relationships because we have the capacity to fully love ourselves unconditionally.

This means we have the capacity to experience true unconditional love with others because you have attained it for yourself.

How does achieving a certain level of self-understanding and self-love then affect your ability to connect with and deepen your relationships with others?

A lot of people are deeply unsatisfied in surface level relations and never experience true intimacy. This is because we can only know another as deep as we are willing to know ourselves. Therefore if we are not willing to delve into our own self to fully know how to meet our own needs and wants, then we will never be fulfilled in an external relationship. Instead you will be seeking from an empty existence because of your own unwillingness to be what you need first and foremost which lacks self responsibility. Ultimately conditioning yourself that love and understanding is an external experience therefore creating not only co dependant relations but untrue experiences for they will be based on an external lie.

This also doesn’t just convert to romantic partnerships as there is a thin line between being independent and codependent and in order to thrive interdependently in all forms of intimate relations whether it be colleagues,friendships or family; you must be able to know yourself well enough to lean into receiving and providing sacred support from a place of detachment. Therefore in order to not only sustain healthy relationships and experience a healthy relation, there must be an underlying foundation of self love and understanding for yourself.

In your experience, what should a) individuals and b) society, do to help people better understand themselves and accept themselves?

Individuals need to be the change for themselves. To pave the way. It is no-one’s responsibility to help people better understand and accept themselves for that is their own decision to make. The only way we can truly influence or inspire people to make that decision is by choosing to be an example of it.

In terms of society, as a collective we can provide and commit to being unconditional presence. Instead of projecting through our own faulty lens and seeing only through our own filter, we can provide a presence which enables others to hold space for themselves in a way in which they can then discover who they really are. This transcends into acceptance as they are being provided a non judgemental and safe space in which they can get to know themselves on a deeper level by allowing self enquiry in the safety of our own willingness to hold unconditional presence for ourselves and others.

What are 5 strategies that you implement to maintain your connection with and love for yourself, that our readers might learn from? Could you please give a story or example for each?

1. Self Compassion. I learnt that regardless of all the tools and resources I can provide myself with; they are no good if I am not willing to have self compassion. Self love can become very surface level and believed to be obtained from a state of doing but I acknowledged that I had to drop into my body and actually embody love for myself. By showing up for myself no matter what and choosing to not just be compassionate but understanding in knowing I am imperfectly perfect. This enables me to truly be an embodiment of self love instead of deceiving myself with surface level “self love” practices.
2. Living an intentional existence. This is something I teach in one of my online group containers in which living an intentional existence enables us to honor the life we desire to live. Instead of allowing external factors to dictate our reality, we lovingly create life for ourselves. Living an intentional existence each and every day enables me to fully commit to my own truth.
3. Intimacy: Self enquiry. This is a practice I lead you through in my first book in which we are conditioning ourselves to be and face our own inner self. This is a practice of devotion. Taking five to ten minutes every day to ask inwardly how are you? What are you feeling? How can I support you? In reminding ourselves that love is presence this is a devotional practice that supports me in being present for myself.
4. Self Language. Being self aware as to how we speak about ourselves and also how we allow others to speak to us. Self love must stretch into the knowing that we are fully responsible for respecting our own presence in a way that we are accountable for how we are talked to and how we speak to ourselves. Ie What self language am I responsible for that has influenced a lack of respect from others? And taking accountability for this. This is a daily devotion in which I am accountable for affirming words of loving affirmations inwardly to account for my self love devotion while also correcting any language that does not honor the truth of who I am.
5. Embrace your Individualism ~ being my own true self. I will not say this does not come without its challenges for there are a continuation of factors that will continue to challenge you as to how faithful you are willing to be to yourself? Using my voice, speaking up and standing my ground is something I am required to implement in order to live a true and honest existence. It means being faithful to myself and not cowering when something is not true or out of alignment. While also honoring that I am diverse and that not all truths are going to co-exist with my own so allowing space for that.

What are your favorite books, podcasts, or resources for self-psychology, intimacy, or relationships? What do you love about each one and how does it resonate with you?

My own. I will always choose my own wisdom. Therefore I am an advocate for my own resources. I no longer seek. I have reached a space in myself in which the answers come from within. Everything I share, teach and provide comes from my own inner experiences. I have not gained externally.

I have applied all of my own teachings that I have channeled into my own life and continue to do so as I am my greatest student.

There is nothing to gain by disconnecting myself from my own inner knowing. I am everything I need.

Therefore, I do not listen to outside noise so I can stay connected to my own inner truth.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? Maybe we’ll inspire our readers to start it…

Be the change. I can not accentuate this enough. How does it make you feel when you are not accepted?

When people want you to be something other than yourself? Now focus on that feeling. Focus on how it made you feel when someone made you feel like who you are in this moment is not enough/broken or unworthy. That you were not worthy of their love because of their conditions.

Deep down in your core, feel it. I want you to imagine a moment in which you were going through something deeply emotional in which you were not held.

Now ask why would I want to contribute that feeling onto others by only seeing the world as broken. Instead of seeing the fragmentations of our society, instead can we build a bridge of unity. So that we can find acceptance not just in the good but in the broken parts of ourselves too.

Can we bring our presence, love and compassion by no longer needing to fix others by making them unredeemable and instead focus on healing ourselves. By choosing to be what your inner wounded child needs, in turn creating a world in which you are no longer repeating cycles of trauma and being an abuser of self.

This is where change begins.

When we are no longer looking outside of ourselves to distract us from what needs to be faced within us. This is when transformation happens to co-create a world in which we want to live in.

When you decide that you no longer want to repeat these cycles of woundedness and instead show up rather then abandoning yourself. This is what we are all capable of.

This is what the next generation needs.

More examples of change makers and cycle breakers so that they can learn how to co-exist in love and unity.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that you use to guide yourself by?
Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life and how our readers might learn to live by it in theirs?

“You are and always have been love.”

It may not be deemed as a life lesson but it certainly has been my greatest catalyst.

I could never truly embody what this meant when I first channeled it in my book; however as I have matured, I have gained grace in the knowing that nothing can separate me from this truth. It keeps me in alignment with the soul knowing that love is the fabrication of my existence.

It is my anchor.

Love is our true state and how I choose to stay in alignment.

Thank you so much for your time and for your inspiring insights!